Is it my fault, or theirs?
No. Lupus isn't caused by anything either of you did.
The full answer, with the sources, is in the guide.
Sources
- Lupus Foundation of America: Common triggers for lupus
- Kool et al.: Social support and invalidation by others contribute uniquely to the understanding of physical and mental health of patients with rheumatic diseases (Journal of Health Psychology)
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